My 8 year-old son
Jonathan asked me recently “When you die what do you want to turn
into?” I told him that I would like to be buried near an apple
tree, so that I can become part of the tree.
“Then I will guard
the tree so that no-one can eat the apples”.
“But I'd like people
to eat the apples, because then I will become part of the people too
won't I?”
One of the innumerable
challenges of being a parent for Kate and I has been how to speak
truthfully to our children, finding the words to answer their
changing needs for understanding and clarity as they grow. We have
never pretended to them about 'Father Christmas', for example,
because we want them to grow up knowing that they can rely on us not
to tell them things that aren't true, even with good intentions (we
also warned them not to disabuse any of their friends who do believe
in him – not wanting a mob of angry parents at our door).
When Moya and Jonathan
have asked the inevitable question 'where do we go when we die?' I
couldn't tell them about a 'heaven' that I have never been able to
believe in myself. Some people tell their children that 'we don't go
anywhere' or 'we just stop', but this also seems wrong to me, because
in the most literal sense of what happens to 'us' (ie our physical
bodies) we never just disappear, in fact everything that we are
composed of will gradually become incorporated into every living
thing on earth.
This is an 'afterlife'
that can be explained even to a very young child, but it is also a
scientific truth with profound and mind-expanding implications.
Tibetan Buddhism teaches that every 'sentient being' has been reborn
such a multitude of times that all living creatures have already
lived in every possible relationship to each other. Every person and
every living being was once our mother, our child, husband and wife,
enemy and friend, in a former life. The ethical implication of this
beautiful worldview is that all living things are intimately related,
so that violence or exploitation directed towards any creature become
unthinkable.
The Buddhist view of reincarnation generally has some
concept of a continuing consciousness that is 'transferred' from one
being to another (the usual metaphor for this is one candle lighting
another). A truly extraordinary fact of our planet's ecology though,
is that at the level of the actual physical 'stuff' that we are all
made of, we are all a mixture of every being that has ever lived in
the past.
Every atom you possess has almost certainly passed through several stars and been part of millions of organisms on its way to becoming you. We are each so atomically numerous and so vigorously recycled at death that a significant number of our atoms – up to a billion for each us, it has been suggested – probably once belonged to Shakespeare.
(From 'A Short History of Nearly Everything' by Bill Bryson. The actual number is probably closer to 200 billion atoms, according to this analysis).
It is one of the
strange aspects of our industrial civilisation that we tend to see
scientific knowledge as opposed to spirituality (a point of view
shared by religious fundamentalism and militant atheists alike). A
society and culture that is capable of living within ecological
limits, that encourages and enables the flourishing of humans and
other species, will surely need to teach its children to understand
scientific processes, but also to reflect with awe and imagination on
their significance and ethical consequences.
When we collect kitchen
scraps for compost we are teaching our children about a biological
process of decomposition and nutrient cycling, but also participating
in a 'spiritual practice'; renewing the fertility of the soil in the same process through which we will one day be recycled into the flow of
nutrients to become part of the atmosphere, the seas, and the living
world.
Hi Craig, I recently discovered that due to the cutbacks, Sheffield council will not be collected bags of lawn cuttings. So I now have a 'composting opportunity.'
ReplyDeleteI really like this thinking Craig. We need a new mix of experiential enlightening metaphors and science.
ReplyDeleteRobert Daines
SJ - enjoy!
ReplyDeleteRobert - Thank you. There are some wonderful popular science writers working at the moment, whose work has given me a new appreciation for the beauty and wonder of the Creation, such as Steve Jones ('Almost Like a Whale'), Stephen Jay Gould, and also Richard Dawkins (excluding his anti-religious polemics).
Alan - Wonderful...